“You cannot change what you refuse to confront” – Unknown
We face it everyday. When we set new resolutions, trying to eat healthier, getting ourselves to workout…
It feels like an inner battle between good and evil. If only we could do everything we set our minds to!
But it’s not that simple. It’s not just black or white
When faced with resistance, our first instinct would be to ignore and push through. But it won’t do much in the long run. It’s like putting a bandaid which doesn’t lead to any resolution.
Start recognizing when it shows up and digging to understand why it’s there
When there is resistance, there is a reason
For example, I noticed so much inner resistance when it came to putting myself in front of a camera.
That resistance translated to physical symptoms where I would noticed my chest getting tighter and my shoulders would rise up.
Why was it there?
In this case, it was fear of making myself seen. I’m an introvert, I enjoy being behind the scenes. I like to observe and create things.
Being seen means I’m no longer in the background, I’m out there. (Kind of like the moment when you’re sitting in a circle and you’re asked to introduce yourself. It’s like a ticking bomb as it reaches my turn – what do I say? How can i make it fast and non awkward? 🙅🏻♀️)
Look, being comfortable is good. But notice if it’s you taking care of yourself vs. fear disguised as comfort
So in this scenario I knew that if I want to serve, I can’t deliver my message by hiding behind the scenes. I can’t empower and guide when I’m not ready to be vulnerable and put myself out there.
“What people think of you is none of your business” I recognized my fear, acknowledged and thanked it for trying to protect me, but I’ve got this. So that’s how I managed to step to the other side.
The fear is still there but by acknowledging it, I’ve been able to understand myself a little better and work with myself instead of against.
Taking care of yourself isn’t complicated, it just requires a little bit more of mindfulness!
Here are some easy exercises to recognize when there’s resistance and a worksheet to help you dig a little deeper: