The word alignment gets used a lot in the healing space.

But somewhere along the way, it started sounding like perfection…as if we had to think only high-vibe thoughts or feel a certain way before taking action 🫤

That if we’re feeling insecure, afraid, or stressed out, we’ve somehow fallen “out of alignment.”

But the truth doesn’t lie in repressing those parts of us (I thought so too).
That misunderstanding keeps so many of us stuck in loops of hesitation, overthinking, or self-doubt.

So let’s clear a few things up 👇

Myth 1: You have to always feel good to be aligned.

Alignment isn’t about staying positive all the time, it’s actually about staying present with whatever you’re holding.

In Human Design, we celebrate the signature themes but often avoid the Not-Self ones, as if they’re “bad.”

Your Not-Self or Shadow is simply data, a cue showing where conditioning might be pulling you away from your natural essence.

Sometimes what’s present can feel tender, uncertain, or messy. (And that’s ok)
It’s honest. And it’s human.

This belief shows up everywhere, especially in the helping and healing professions

Myth 2: You have to be healed in order to help others.

We’re often told we need to be fully healed before we can hold space for others.

But healing isn’t a finish line or a state you reach once.

It’s a living process of holding ourselves with honesty, presence and capacity building.
The very same qualities that make us more grounded guides, therapists, and practitioners.

We’re not looking for those who have it all figured out.
We’re looking for those who can embrace the messy with us.

Myth 3: Fear means you’re off path.

Not all fears are the same and not all are warnings of danger.

Some fears come from the body’s instinct to protect and keep us safe, our survival and intuitive awareness.

Others arise from the mind, you know those pesky stories of not being enough, of failing, of being seen and ignored.

Both warrants our attention, but not to control nor micro-manage.

When we meet fear with curiosity instead of resistance, it often reveals the edges of our growth.

Sometimes fear and excitement even feel the same in the body, the difference lies in how we choose to engage with them.

Myth 4: Certain designs have an advantage.

Manifestors, Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, and Reflectors each move energy in a way that supports the whole.

Each type has exactly what it needs to carry its purpose, mission, or desire (whatever you want to call it).

No type is “better” or more powerful.
Comparison only distracts from embodiment.

And tough love? Sometimes it’s easier to believe the story of “not enough” than to trust our unique expression and potential.

Myth 5: Once you reach alignment (or the goal, the income, the relationship, the status), everything will fall into place.

This is one of the most seductive myths!
The illusion that once you “get there,” life becomes smooth and effortless.

But alignment isn’t a destination you arrive at.
It’s a state we return to, again and again.

It’s not about never facing challenges.
it’s about cultivating the capacity to meet them differently.

Alignment is taking care of yourself so you can respond to life in the most supportive way.

There will still be detours, lessons, and messy moments but you’ll meet them from a steadier nervous system, a kinder mind, and a deeper trust in yourself.

Not from a place of proving, overexertion, or burnout.

At the end of the day, deconditioning isn’t about erasing what’s human.
It’s about remembering how to stay connected, to your body, your truth, and your inner rhythm through it all.

If these myths sound familiar, you’re not alone.

We’ve all been conditioned to doubt ourselves,
to follow someone else’s formula,
to understand transformation instead of embodying it.

That’s why I’m hosting Shifting Shadows: Intro to the 64 Gates Journey on Friday, October 31st.

It’s a free 90-minute workshop to help you reconnect with your energy, explore your shadows, and experience somatic practices to help shift and hold your energetics.

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A replay will be available for a limited time if you can’t join live!