Let me introduce the 3 minds to you. But before we jump ahead, a little bit of a backstory.
As someone used to bottling their emotions, sitting with my feelings is fairly new to me. Quite frankly, how do you give space to your emotions without letting them spiral and take over?
I’ve been so used to holding space for others, that I didn’t know how to do so for myself
One thing I know is that I didn’t have to do it alone. I’ve been going to therapy for a couple of months now and it’s been so healing. There is so much power in noticing your patterns and triggers. Self-awareness helps you show up for yourself better
Here’s an interesting concept I learned from my therapist.
They are: the reasonable mind, the emotional and the wise mind. We go through all the states but you might find yourself gravitating to one more than the other most of the time
Another way to understand the 3 Minds, is to imagine how they might interact with each other:
🧠 Reasonable Mind: You should workout. You’ve been sitting too much
💛 Emotional Mind: I don’t want to do that! I’m tired, you’re stressing me out!
🧘🏻♀️ Wise Mind: I can be stressed about this AND try a gentle workout instead. I know I’ll feel better once I move
In this example, the reasonable mind is telling the emotional mind what to do, whereas the wise mind is acknowledging the emotional minds concerns, while soothing it in a reasonable way
I tend to use reason over emotion, using logic to overwrite my feelings. And now I’m learning to hold space for them