Aug 29, 2023
40 Gate of Aloneness is the will to support, to commit and provide. Also known as the breadwinner, this gate is the energy of the Ego to support themselves and their loved ones.
I’m writing from the middle of the Atlantic ocean with spotty internet, diverted travel plans and no voice left. Not sure what the themes of this particular Mercury Retrograde is but it’s made our family vacay from the very start a loooot more entertaining than expected 🥲 🥴. Thankfully, everyone is safe!
Now to this week’s transit, Gate 40.
This is the will to work, to provide for yourself + your community. This gate needs time alone to rest, recharge from the work they do. This is all about boundaries and bargains.
Coming from the Solar Plexus—the emotional awareness and motor center, 37 Gate of Friendship is the awareness of how to nurture the emotional needs of friendships + communities
Moving towards the Ego—the motor center for willpower, ego & the material world. Where 40 Gate of Aloneness is the will to work and provide while balancing work and rest.
Together they form the 37-40 Channel of Community.
The 40 Gate of Aloneness is the expression of the Stream of Sensitivity. This part of the Community Tribal Circuit in which the principles, emotional needs of the community are determined along with the bargains, deals to meet them.
If you have this whole stream, you’re sensitive to your personal needs along with the ones of your community. You sense when something is off and find ways to find harmony and balance.
Yet the 40 without the 37, might not always have the proper boundaries on how to use their will, honour their needs or know who to share the resources they’ve accumulated with.
What fascinates me the most about the gates and channels is how interconnected they are.
Each play a specific role in how they receive, transform and express energy on an individual, communal and collective level.
Here’s the Stream of Sensitivity at a glance. Starting with Gate 19, 49, 37 & 40.
“Willpower used in the wrong direction becomes force, and even though it may still succeed in its endeavour, the results to the body will be catastrophic and irreversible.” —Richard Rudd
In the shadow expressions, Gate 40 can force your will to work without proper rest or even when the bargain isn’t right. Feeling isolated from others, not getting the support you need or able to set clear boundaries to protect your energy so everyone is able to drain your life force.
Is your 40 in a Defined or Undefined Ego? Notice if the shadow expressions of wanting, needing to prove yourself is accentuated. If undefined, you might not always know when to rest / when to work. How can you set some clear boundaries to protect & nourish your life force? What are yout energetic cycles and needs?
As a projected energy, recognition and invitation in doing the work you love is important. So you can support your community and get the support you need. You’re part of an ecosystem.The more you’re able to carve out alone time, the more you’re able to recharge so the right opportunities and recognition can make its way to you.
Who are the people who recognize and appreciate your hard work? Do you get to strike a work and rest balance that is supportive to your own personal ebbs and flow? How does your strategy & authority help guide you?
Who encourages + understands your need to disconnect & be alone? Only then will you have the capacity to renew and recharge. This is also on of the gates of aloneness along with Gate 12 Caution and Gate 33 Retreat
The Wisdom of this gate, as seen through the 40th gene key is Resolve. Like Richard Rudd breaks it down, this is about becoming adept at giving to yourself. The balance, the harmony between serving the world and serving your own enjoyment. Like the saying, how do you fill your own cup before filling other’s? Sacrificial love comes at a cost: yourself, your own sanity and well-being.
It is not sustainable to put others before yourself in the long run. Your life force is precious and not everyone is entitled nor should have unlimited access to it. Only you know what your own boundaries and needs are. It’s your responsibility to ground and reinforce them. A “no” plus alone time will do wonders in recharging and activating the gifts of the 40 without overexerting yourself. You are abundance on earth but you are also in a human body that requires cycles of rest.
One of the lessons from the Gate of Aloneness is how interconnected we all are. I know, this is a theme I bring up often but really, the irony of this gate is that you’re not here to do it all by yourself. Nor are you expected to. Remember, community circuit, this is about doing work that supports others while also getting the appropriate support ourselves.
This is an energetic exchange, an alchemy in collaboration with those around you. You’re here to provide as long as the bargain meets your needs.
Something to note, by work it’s simply any kind of energetic exchange. It might not be a traditional 9-5 role or even one of monetary means. But it’s one where you’re able to support others and nourish yourself as well. Where are you recognized? What feels fulfilling to you? What type of work honours your cycles as well?
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As a single stay at home mom this really hit for me. I haven’t had a lot of support and have done this on my own. All while receiving a lot of criticism saying I’m a bum I’m not working but being with my child is my work it’s a labor of love and bc it’s just us I haven’t had a lot of recharge time but this affirmed a lot for me I’m doing an amazing work time I won’t get back I’m learning to carve time out for me and rest as much as I can and not let the projections of being a bum or lazy keep me from enjoying my time with my daughter and rest in between
Hi Morgan,
Thank you for sharing your reflections! This is such a fascinating gate to me, it is community focused and all about caring for ourselves and our community. Giving and receiving. It’s the balance between give or take, working and resting. Depending on whether you have a defined or undefined heart, it’ll also impact how this energy feels for you!